Love and Respect is an excellent book on marriage. The author's basic premise is that men and women tend to follow the Golden Rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. However, as the author explains, what women want is love and what men want is respect. And so, when the spouse provides what they naturally want, they give their partner something besides what they desire.
Like most Christian books, it probably could have been a monogram instead of a full-length hardback. The stories about couples seem like a bit of overkill after a while. And ultimately, the point it made in the first couple of chapters. Then the author attempts to use acronyms to describe how husbands and wives should love each other (COUPLE and CHAIR). But he really could have said: just read 5 Love Languages to see how this works out.
Every couple should at least check this book out of the library and spend an hour reading the first several chapters. I think it is a powerful idea for husbands to say to their wives, "I don't feel respected when you do that." And it is equally powerful for wives to say to their husbands, "I don't feel loved when you do that."
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